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Brunch · Experience · Dinner

The
VIP Day.

A day with my full attention. Built around what you want to explore.

We begin over brunch, move into an experience designed around you, and close over dinner—with spaciousness throughout.

Come with your curiosity. Your desires. The part of your life you’re ready to give some attention.

Let’s create your VIP Day

For individuals and couples · A location we choose together

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A private day with AyceDesigned around your intentionsAvailable anywhere by arrangement
Give yourself the day.

What would you
love to experience?

Perhaps you want to feel more comfortable receiving. Find the words for a desire you’ve held quietly. Explore a new part of yourself, or discover a different way of connecting with your partner.

We create a day that gives those intentions room. There’s space for conversation, embodied exploration, play, pauses, and rest.

We move at a pace that lets you stay present with what’s unfolding. Your choices, boundaries, and curiosity help shape the experience as we go.

Come with something you want to explore. Let’s create a day that gives it room.

The rhythm of your day

Brunch.
Experience.
Dinner.

Personal attention from the moment we sit down together.

Before we meet, we talk through what draws you here, what you want to explore, and the setting that fits. We agree on the shape of your day, participation, timing, and investment.

Your experience may center on pleasure, receiving, communication, erotic expression, or connection. Any proposed touch or experiential activity is discussed and agreed together.

Tell me what you have in mind
Brunch

Arrive.
Enjoy. Get curious.

We begin over brunch. Time to enjoy each other’s company and talk about what’s bringing you here—your curiosity, desires, and what you’d love to experience.

Experience

Then we
get into it.

Private, personalized exploration with room for conversation, guided embodied work, play, and rest. We follow your intentions and what emerges.

Dinner

Let the day
land.

We close over dinner, with time to enjoy what we’ve shared, reflect on what you’re discovering, and consider how you want to bring it into your life.

The setting is part of the design.

A location
we choose together.

Your VIP Day can take place anywhere by arrangement. We choose the location with your intentions, comfort, and privacy in mind.

We confirm the practical details—including venue, travel, meals, timing, scope, and investment—before you book.

A feel for your day

You bring yourself. I meet you there.

Your curiosities, your edges, your need to be met. We make room for them, with professional guidance, clear agreements, and resources to support you through the experience. Your VIP Day’s setting is chosen together.

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Room for conversation, laughter, and connection.
Ayce relaxing at the edge of a palm-lined pool while on vacation.
Time to slow down and enjoy where you are.

Clear agreements, regular check-ins, and room to pause are part of how we work together.

From private work with Ayce
“I can speak my deepest desires and share my rawest truths, without judgment.”

Wild Orchid · Google review

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Meet Ayce

The person
you’re hiring.

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Ayce Kyptyn

He / Him · Boulder, Colorado

I’m a somatic sexologist and gay trans man with a past life in ministry, missions, and executive leadership.

I know how much can sit underneath a question about sex: faith, identity, relationships, and years of being who you thought you had to be. Exploring my own pleasure changed my body, my relationships, and how I live.

I bring professional training, lived experience, grounded masculine presence, and the ability to talk plainly about the things you’ve struggled to say. You bring your experience. I bring my attention, skills, curiosity, and a sense of humor.

Training & credentials

Erotic Blueprints™ Certified Coach with advanced practitioner training in Jaiya’s methodology. Certified in Bondassage™. Graduate of Like a Pro training in Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent®. Continuing studies in Sexological Bodywork.

More about Ayce
Before your day

A few things
to know.

Where can a VIP Day happen?

Anywhere by arrangement. We choose the location together and confirm the venue and any travel arrangements before you book.

How long is the day?

The day unfolds from brunch through the personalized experience and dinner. We agree on the schedule together, with room for pauses and rest.

Can I come with a partner?

Yes. VIP Days can be designed for an individual or a couple. We discuss everyone’s intentions and participation beforehand.

What happens during the experience?

We design the focus together. It may include conversation and guided exploration of desire, receiving, communication, boundaries, and connection. Any touch is explicitly discussed and chosen.

How is this different from The Immersion?

The Immersion offers three 90-minute to two-hour sessions across three days in my Boulder space. A VIP Day is one dedicated day, from brunch through dinner, in a location we choose together.

Your next step

Have something
in mind?
Tell me.

Tell me what draws you to a VIP Day and where you’re imagining it. A few honest lines are enough to begin. I’ll reply personally by email and arrange a complimentary 15-minute Zoom conversation with you.

Prefer email?
aycekyptyn@gmail.com

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I’ll email you to arrange a time. We’ll discuss the format and investment before you commit.

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Sex & Intimacy Coaching
in Boulder & Online

Ayce Kyptyn offers private sex and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples in Boulder, Colorado, and online nationwide. Explore desire, pleasure, communication, and connection with practical, consent-led support.
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There is more available in connection, intimacy, and desire than what you’ve experienced so far.

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More honesty.
More presence inside your own body.
More aliveness.

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This is a space where people slow down long enough to feel what’s actually happening in their lives and relationships.

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Where truth becomes easier to speak.
Where the body becomes easier to trust.
Where all of you is welcome.

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And where the capacity for connection, intimacy, and erotic expression begins to expand.

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Real change.

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Embodied.

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HOW TO BEGIN
THIS WORK

There are several ways people begin this journey depending on where they are in their life and what kind of container feels most supportive.

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Some people begin with private conversations.
Others are drawn to immersive experiences.

Many clients take the opportunity to experience it all!

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Each path invites you into greater self awareness, presence, and embodiment.

1

The Personal Experience

Your questions, your desires, your curiosity.

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Explore desire, identity, pleasure, and expression with private coaching and embodied education shaped around you.

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Begin with a complimentary introductory conversation. Work with Ayce in Boulder or online nationwide. Your recommended experience and next steps are outlined privately.

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The Relational Experience

Me. You. The space between us.

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For couples and partners who want more connection, pleasure, and room to express what they want. Build practical skills for communicating desire, exploring together, and honoring each person’s experience.

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Begin with a complimentary introductory conversation. Your recommended experience and next steps are outlined privately.

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Live Group Experiences

Live group experiences bring people together who are willing to show up honestly and engage with what’s really going on.

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There is something powerful about being in a room where presence, attunement, and truth are practiced together.

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Witnessing others and being witnessed often expands what becomes possible inside connection, intimacy, and personal expression.

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What Working Together
Can Look Like

Every client arrives with their own story, questions, and desires.

 

This work welcomes curiosity and complexity.

It creates space for the parts of you

that may not have had a place to exist before.

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Our work will include honest conversation, somatic awareness practices, relational exploration, resourcing, and guided exercises designed to deepen presence and connection.

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The focus is on expanding your capacity to feel, communicate, experience intimacy more fully and on your own terms.

In Person Immersion
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Transmuting Pain into Pleasure
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In Person Session
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Full Expression of Self
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WHAT CLIENTS SAY

S.Y. | FL

Ayce Kyptyn believes deeply in the people he works with, and that belief shows up in how he shows up: encouraging, grounded, and endlessly generous with his energy.

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I'm so grateful for his strength, perseverance, and the work he's doing in the world. Ayce doesn't just support the people around him — he lifts them up along the way to their own success.

D. T. | MI

"This work didn't just change my relationships... it changed how I show up in my life."

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​"Every meeting with Ayce has been phenomenal. I have learned a lot about myself with their patient guidance. The atmosphere is very welcoming, and I would definitely recommend the experience!"

L.M. | CA

Ayce's presence is so warm and engaging,  his heart is as big as the sense of safety he creates, and you can bring absolutely anything to him. 

 

Ayce is also an accelerator: in his presence, you'll be accelerated in your growth, whether it's personal or in your professional business, and you will move forward. It's a powerful combination, and rare to find in his field.

SOMATIC SEXOLOGY SESSIONS
THIS WORK IS FOR PEOPLE WHO…

This work tends to resonate with people who know there is more available in their lives than what they’ve experienced so far.

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People who are curious about their inner world and willing to be honest about what’s actually happening inside their relationships.

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People who want intimacy that feels alive.

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Some arrive carrying experiences that have shaped their relationship with intimacy: survivors of abuse, people who have felt disconnected from their bodies or voices, people exploring identity, gender, expression, orientation or their sexuality, as well as those who are beginning to explore intimacy later in life.

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Others come because they are questioning parts of themselves they were never given permission to explore.

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Many of the women drawn to this work find themselves longing to feel safe, seen, and supported in the presence of grounded masculine energy.

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And many arrive simply because something inside them knows there is more possible than the stories they’ve been given.

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I serve people who are devoted to living fully human.

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Ayce Kyptyn's Specialties 

Somatic Sexologist • Transmasc Powerhouse • Living Transmission

​​Trauma-skilled transformation rooted in attunement, embodiment, and the kind of congruence that makes change inevitable.

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Erotic Blueprints™ Advanced Practitioner

A framework that identifies five distinct arousal types: Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky, and Shapeshifter-offering a map to understanding your unique erotic language and deepening intimacy.

 

I would not be the person I am today without this methodology! Erotic Blueprints™ Certified Coach with advanced practitioner training.

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LGBTQ+

I've done a deep dive into gender, expression, orientation, and identity on a very personal & professional level.

 

I'm transmasculine.

I'm gay.​

I'm a trauma-skilled provider.

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Somatic Embodiment

The practice of fully inhabiting your body allowing you to feel, express, and connect to your desires with presence, power, and authenticity.

 

This is where my awakening happened, on the table as a client! I am currently a student of the Institute of Sexological Bodywork, working towards my certification.

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Purity Culture Recovery

I guide people in deconstructing purity culture and religion to own their truth, pleasure, and liberated self-expression.

 

I spent over 20 years as a professional theologian.

I'm currently an ex-evangelical.

I enjoy deep theological conversations & critical thinking!

A COMMUNITY OF PRACTICE

This work didn’t begin as a career path.

It began as a personal inquiry in my own life's journey.

For this reason this work is deeply personal to me and is heavily influenced by my own lived experience combined with world class training!

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The transformation I experienced through embodied and relational work was profound enough that it changed the direction of my life entirely.

I committed to studying deeply with some of the most respected practitioners in the fields of somatics, intimacy, and embodied transformation.

Over the years I’ve trained hands-on with teachers and colleagues whose work continues to shape how we understand connection, presence, and erotic intelligence.

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I value collaboration and the continual refinement of skill.

This field grows stronger when practitioners support one another, expand their capacity, and remain committed to learning.

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My intention is always to serve clients in the ways that are most supportive for them.

When another practitioner’s expertise is a better fit, I’m always happy to refer people toward the resources that will serve them best.

And when the work aligns, I offer the depth of training, presence, and experience that allows people to explore these parts of their lives with care and integrity.

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Many of the people who find their way into my spaces are leaders themselves: practitioners, guides, and professionals who hold space for others in their own work and lives.  Professionals who understand the responsibility of holding others  and the importance of continuing to do their own work.

The deeper we go in this work, the more essential it becomes to have spaces where we can also be supported, challenged, and witnessed in our own growth.

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 In real life...

Disclaimer: Everyone comes into this process with a different awareness, skill level, and ability to dive into the process. You acknowledge that Volitionary Life does not guarantee your ability to achieve any specific outcome. Your level of participation will greatly affect the outcomes of your coaching experience! By participating in a coaching relationship you agree to work hard towards the goals you desire to achieve and that you are 100% responsible for your progress. We are not financial advisors, psychotherapists, medical professionals, or anything of the like. Therefore, you acknowledge your personal responsibility to receive any additional services on your own, as needed, to help you achieve the outcomes you need or desire.

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